Tonight’s show was a little different, and a huge learning curve for me, as I hope it was for you! A friend of mine sent me an article recently about learning to say no and I knew I had to share it.
For many of us, especially those involved in extra curricular activities, we find ourselves saying yes to everything. While you may feel like you are doing people a favour, in the end, you’re probably not. See, by saying yes to everything soon enough you have way to much on your plate to deal with and you can’t complete tasks to your full potential.
So tonight, I talked all about learning how to say no. Trust me, I know how hard it is but when people come to you asking for help, or for you to complete a task, but sometimes you just need to say no. Saying yes too often can result in burning out, not completing other tasks, or not doing a good job. And no one wants that! Ultimately, saying no can potentially free you up to say yes to something that is more important.
George Ambler’s blog was great in explaining how to say yes slowly as an alternative to saying no, or saying yes right away. I talked about a few questions he tells us to ask before you commit to something:
- How does this fit with our strategic goals?
- Why are you asking me?
- What is the priority for this work?
- What would it take to get it done?
- What would I need to do?
- If I can only do part of this work, what part would be the most useful?
Stopping to assess what is being asked of you, and asking yourself these questions will really help to free up your time so you can focus on what really matters.
In the same breath, it’s important to outline what it is that is important to you to help assess when to say yes and when to say no. what are your goals and will this task interfere with or help them?
It’s a hard concept to wrap your head around, but learning to say no will not only help your mental health but will significantly improve the quality of work you put out.
“The art of leadership is saying no. It is very easy to say yes.” – Tony Blair