In previous shows we’ve discussed how important it is to have a community of support around you for people you can lean on and turn to in difficult times. However, something I’ve briefly talked about a few times is learning how to be happy on your own.
Psychology Today says that solitude is a state of being alone without being lonely and can lead to self awareness. It’s important to make the distinction between loneliness and solitude. Loneliness is a negative state, whereas solitude is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself.
Trust me, I know being alone isn’t easy, but learning to step out of your comfort zone and be happy on your own will teach you so much about yourself – who you are, what you stand for, and more importantly – what you can bring to other relationships. If you don’t know who you are and you’re not strong in that, how do you know what you bring to the relationship, and whether or not that person completes you? Being comfortable in solitude and learning about who you are will also help to not lose yourself within a relationship. While you are developing as a couple, you still need to be able to connect to your own individuality in order to continue having a healthy relationship.
I wouldn’t say I’m an expert but I have definitely found myself in periods of being on my own, even when I do have a full team of support behind me. It is in those moments that I have learned so much about myself. It is truly liberating to know that no matter what happens in my life, I know I can face it on my own. And I can honestly say that I am at a point in my life where I love being by myself – going to see a movie by myself means I don’t have to hear anyone else’s comments; going shopping by myself means I can go into whatever store I want and buy whatever I think looks good.
Even more, when it comes to eating healthy or working out, they are ultimately personal challenges. Only you know how far you can go; only you can make the decision what to eat or what not to eat. In the end, the choices are yours – how are YOU treating YOUR body and what decisions are YOU making on a daily basis.
We also had the pleasure of having some words of the wise straight from Denmark! My former co-host Tiffany shared some info with us on stepping out of her comfort zone in Denmark, providing some tips. You can find all the things she had to say in the blog post entitled “Dazed in Denmark: Outside Your Comfort Zone”.
You all know that I’m a firm believer in the fact that everything happens for a reason, so if you’re like me and continue to experience periods of solitude unwillingly, ask yourself why – what do you need to learn in this solitude? Do you really know everything there is to know about yourself?